by Kahlia Meeuwsen, Relationships Columnist
Published in Relationships on 6th August, 2018
It's not always easy to tell when a lady is into you, but there are plenty of tips that can help you to find out! All you have to do is watch closely, and you'll surely find that the signs are more obvious than you might have previously thought. Read on, and you'll learn just how to tell if she wants to take it to the next level!
Many of us are familiar with this concept. We see someone we're interested in and can't help but take a look, or two, or several. Sometimes we may not even be aware of just how often our eyes can veer towards that person, so it's a great way to notice if a woman might be into you.
You might find that her looks are fleeting, and she looks away as soon as she notices you looking back. In other cases, you might get a smile or a few seconds of eye contact. It's really going to depend on the specific woman. The real key is to notice how often it happens.
If you catch her looking at you pretty regularly, then there's a good chance she's interested. However, if it's rare, to just once or twice then her eyes may just have wandered that way while she wasn't paying attention. The only way to find out is to ask!
Some ladies just can't help but smile when they see someone who gets their heart pounding. Even if you haven't done anything in particular to warrant a smile, she might have a huge, happy grin on her face. In addition, you might notice that she "lights up" in your presence.
What that essentially means is that she appears happier overall as soon as she sees you. She might become more talkative, smile or laugh more often, or just seem a lot more upbeat. If you notice her blushing on top of that, odds are that she likes you!
So keep notice during times when you see her. Whether it's at work, in a class together or at a planned meeting, you might be able to catch the little changes in her mood. Make sure to watch closely, and take notice if she smiles more often around you!
Body language, whether intended or not, can be a huge sign that a woman is interested in you. There are also several signs to look for in this vein. For starters, take notice if she leans forward during conversation, or seems to want to otherwise close the distance between you.
Another sign is one you can notice when you're next to each other. In some cases, particularly in women with longer hair, they may move their hair to the shoulder opposite you. This results in an exposure of neck in your direction. It's a small sign, but one worth keeping note of.
In some other signs, it's possible that she may play with her hair more around you. This can be a signal that she's a little nervous around you, typically in a pleasant way! Those who are a little more bold might ask for hugs or simply try to find ways to be near you.
When a woman has a crush, she typically likes to pay attention to the object of her interest. This can mean being more involved in conversations with you than with others, or remembering things you tell her. It's kind of like a catalogue in her mind.
In some cases, she may even do something to show you she's been listening. Perhaps with a gift, or by bringing up a topic to ask about something you may have told her previously. Deep down, it's an act for her to let you know she cares about what you like and what's going on in your life.
Depending on the extent to which she shows you she remembers aspects about you, this can either be an easy way to tell or one that is much more subtle. If you think it is the case that she likes you, then it doesn't hurt to remember things about her as well!
A woman who is interested in you may seek out ways to get your attention. This can range from ensuring she's dressed well, that her makeup is done perfectly, to finding excuses to talk to you or be somewhere in the vicinity near you.
There can also be some instances where she might throw out some hints with regard to hanging out, or exchanging numbers. It's important to be aware that she's likely hoping you'll take the initiative to actually ask for these things, if you're interested in attempting a deeper connection with her.
Consequently, it'll be worth your while to watch whether or not it appears she wants more attention from you. Sometimes these signs can be pretty subtle, so you'll have to be aware if you're interested in her as well. Otherwise, it doesn't hurt to ask her out and see what she says.
As mentioned earlier, the lady who likes you might make hints about hanging out. She might also find that you have similar interests, and suggest enjoying some of those things together. If the interest is mutual, it's best not to leave these suggestions hanging.
In situations where you end up alone together with no real intent of your own, it can be a good time to get a feel for the way she feels about you. If she's blushing, smiling, or just really seems to enjoy being around you, then odds are at the very least, she enjoys your company.
Otherwise, if she seems standoffish or uncomfortable, don't push it. There's no relationship that is worth pushing for if it makes one of you uncomfortable. It also never hurts to politely ask for clarity, if you're unsure whether or not she's interested in you.
Light teasing can be a sign that a woman is into you. Most of the time, this isn't goint to be teasing that is hurtful or sharp, but instead small jabs aimed at joking with you. This teasing can be a great sign that there may be some interest, so pay attention to see if teasing is going on.
Ultimately, this is a way to take deeper romantic feelings and treat them in a more lighthearted way. It's a method for showing you she's interested that doesn't include a straightforward claim, which can be painfully rejected. This makes the situation easier for her.
Compliments can also be a sign that she's interested, but those tend to happen less often than teasing. If the interest is mutual, then you can engage in a little teasing too, but be careful not to be too rough. It might even be a better option to ask her out.
Whether they're male, female or somewhere on the spectrum, someone who is genuinely interested in you will initiate at least some of the conversations between you. It's an important sign to watch out for when you want to know just how much interest someone may have in you.
Generally speaking, this is something that will become more clear with someone you already talk to, text or otherwise have contact with. Take note to see if they initiate conversations. They don't need to initiate them all, as there is an important balance to be kept, but at least some.
If you find that you're the one starting conversations much more often than you feel comfortable with, then it might be an opportunity to decide whether or not you want to continue to pursue that person. However, if she does initiate then it's sure to feel great to know she's interested!
Having a crush can easily include being in a better mood overall, and that may lead to laughing more quickly. This is similar to the concept of smiling more around you, but is on a little bit deeper level. If you find that she's laughing at just about every mildly funny thing you say, she may be interested!
One great way to tell is to consider the way she is around others as well. Does she laugh as easily around them, or is it just you? If she's a more carefree person, then it might be possible she just loves to laught. However, it might also be that you make her especially happy.
Ideally, this and frequent smiling should pair with at least one of the other signs in this list. However, that may not always be the case. When in doubt, it's perfectly okay to present your interest and see if the feeling is mutual, though it can be a scary concept!
Overall, there are a number of signs that can clue you in to whether or not a woman is into you. However, it's difficult to know without taking the leap and asking her out, or letting her know you're interested. Just make sure to be polite and respectful, and you may at least make a new friend.